tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post5931570382202267823..comments2023-10-28T07:42:43.163-06:00Comments on Baby Darling: RELEASEmeridionalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963012322916206419noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-26839628628345744082012-09-13T10:09:31.901-06:002012-09-13T10:09:31.901-06:00Beautiful post. It's always good to hear the b...Beautiful post. It's always good to hear the birth father's perspective. I'm a birth mother of 2 and one of the birth fathers only saw our baby once but never took the chance to see him again. My birth children are 11 and almost 8 now. It still hurts sometimes but I don't regret the choice at all. It's so wonderful to know they are safe and happy.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04837626224515712756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-20721505311311598762012-06-18T16:51:06.955-06:002012-06-18T16:51:06.955-06:00That last picture made me cry...
I'm so glad ...That last picture made me cry... <br />I'm so glad I read this post and I'm also glad my youngest daughter's birthfather was involoved with her adoption. I love reading your perspective - it helps me to understand what he was probably feeling too. Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing!!!Mostly Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00035226546186681273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-9262439566780164582011-11-08T15:33:08.501-07:002011-11-08T15:33:08.501-07:00Our baby's birth dad didn't hold her at al...Our baby's birth dad didn't hold her at all. I felt so sad about it, but I understood it was what he needed. The next time he saw her (at 6 weeks old) he held and snuggled her a ton. <br />I think you said it right: I didn’t want her to not be mine.<br /><br />Thanks for your story.Lara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-940561721111501452011-10-30T21:43:22.433-06:002011-10-30T21:43:22.433-06:00So, how is it going?So, how is it going?Black Bettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03280969106974676574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-525957125107928372011-09-05T08:39:10.044-06:002011-09-05T08:39:10.044-06:00Ben, I just want to hug you- I'm posting you a...Ben, I just want to hug you- I'm posting you again on my blog and talking about our birth father and all birth fathers- feel free to chime it! PS i liked your selfish remarks:)CCmommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14896105297510336260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-27739716802771022362011-08-07T18:48:13.155-06:002011-08-07T18:48:13.155-06:00"It’s not going to sound selfish to most of y..."It’s not going to sound selfish to most of you, but it sounds selfish to me. Knowing that while I will always be there for her in whatever way she needs, I don’t need to be."<br /><br />I know what you mean. It hurts to admit how freeing that can be. It gets easier, then harder again, simpler, and more complicated. But it's good to know that there's some company out there, someone else with similar questions.<br />It's good to find another first father.I amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13182867182942654599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-46932077201744169882011-07-20T12:44:19.961-06:002011-07-20T12:44:19.961-06:00Congratulations, she is beautiful. Thank you for ...Congratulations, she is beautiful. Thank you for sharing your experience and your emotions. Darling is lucky to have you as a birth father. So few adopted children have such a wonderful privileged.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07429515503572093034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-72110155022464231812011-07-20T10:31:05.138-06:002011-07-20T10:31:05.138-06:00Thank you for sharing your story. I recently foun...Thank you for sharing your story. I recently found your blog and I've been reading through your posts and I think you're great. It takes courage to share your thoughts and your perspective through such a hard time. I admire you. Thank you.Lizzie - The Dancing Toad Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10426939300151545933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-33807922634433445662011-07-20T08:45:29.250-06:002011-07-20T08:45:29.250-06:00Those lippies!
Beautiful post. Thinking of you.
...Those lippies!<br /><br />Beautiful post. Thinking of you.<br /><br />XOLindsey from The R Househttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16487077462904179112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-64466642689695900062011-07-19T16:39:06.009-06:002011-07-19T16:39:06.009-06:00SHE IS SO PRECIOUS AND BEAUTIFUL!!! You have been ...SHE IS SO PRECIOUS AND BEAUTIFUL!!! You have been on my mind so much. Yes it is very, very hard, but you are such a strong man and father for putting her first. There will be peace and joy through the pain, I promise that. A lot will come from you feeling secure in your decision and knowing you made the best decision for her. You are a hero in my eyes.A Life Being Livedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702473000464603292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-47713737280613966952011-07-19T14:24:17.339-06:002011-07-19T14:24:17.339-06:00I am so happy for you and your baby darling. She i...I am so happy for you and your baby darling. She is beautiful!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09314003194310648064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-18862170934336799802011-07-19T14:07:46.781-06:002011-07-19T14:07:46.781-06:00I am glad that things went okay with Darling's...I am glad that things went okay with Darling's arrival. She is truly an amazing little miracle and such a cutie.<br /><br />I wish you peace along this lifelong journey called adoption. You gave your little girl everything and I know that her adoptive parents will make sure she knows how much & how deeply you love her.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02366990905648323219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-34423513120172597242011-07-19T12:29:54.590-06:002011-07-19T12:29:54.590-06:00:0)I didnt think that would make me cry but it did...:0)I didnt think that would make me cry but it did. very heart felt. Your such a strong guy.. I dont think i could ever do it but you get mad props for itKrutsch, Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07245028495891963036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-55838924562262740742011-07-19T09:54:31.973-06:002011-07-19T09:54:31.973-06:00Perfect way to express your feelings. :) She is ...Perfect way to express your feelings. :) She is amazingly beautiful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-15523780163103152402011-07-19T09:22:36.058-06:002011-07-19T09:22:36.058-06:00Thank you for being so willing to share such perso...Thank you for being so willing to share such personal thoughts, feelings and experiences. So rarely does the view of a birth father get shared and you've done so quite eloquently. <br /><br />I wish you peace, happiness and joy in your future endeavors. And congratulations, she's beautiful.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01263222190554094815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-7963872221403421512011-07-19T08:58:38.863-06:002011-07-19T08:58:38.863-06:00"I was expecting to still be sad; I had figur..."I was expecting to still be sad; I had figured I would be for a very long time. But that just wasn’t the case"<br />When I placed Robbie I was sad for a very long time. A lot of it had to do with the fact that I had placed him with people I'd only met twice, people who were strangers. I didn't know much about them, their personalities, or how committed to open adoption they were. So the anxiety and fear of the unknown added a lot to my depression. <br />However, when I placed William it was with people I had already been friends with and knew pretty well. I didn't have any fear, anxiety, or doubts about how things would be done and how the relationship would be handled. It made a huge difference. While of course I was horribly sad to let William go, knowing who he was with gave me peace and I was so happy for my friends.<br />So I guess what I'm saying is that it's not entirely surprising that you are not crushed with sadness. You seem to have a very good relationship with Darlings parents, and I'm sure that makes it easier to relax and let her go. <br />Congratulations Ben, she is beautiful :)Not Just A Birth Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10520101148178388809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-74844937498681527232011-07-19T08:47:47.210-06:002011-07-19T08:47:47.210-06:00Love to you, Benjamin! I have been worried about y...Love to you, Benjamin! I have been worried about your heart! So glad you've found some peace.Andy, Mary, Nate, Lizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12039472856853662901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-5612746356971359562011-07-19T07:47:15.131-06:002011-07-19T07:47:15.131-06:00You are a remarkable person, Benjamin.You are a remarkable person, Benjamin.Shinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07248638307776387058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8009243058674452216.post-89150927272066385172011-07-19T05:17:30.958-06:002011-07-19T05:17:30.958-06:00I'm so proud of you. :-) So very very proud ...I'm so proud of you. :-) So very very proud and happy for you. You did the right thing.Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08127629832658899306noreply@blogger.com